Suggested Goal for your Marriage Counseling
I suggest that you go to marriage counseling, not to put your marriage back together, but to make it much better than it has ever been. That way, it will not be as vulnerable to making the same mistakes.
Suggested Purpose for your Marriage
I suggest that you adopt and commit to a purpose for your marriage that emphasizes helping each other enjoy life and become all that you can be, individually as well as a couple. Purposes provide both the direction for a relationship and a measure of what behaviors are helpful and which are not.